Wednesday, March 15, 2023

Milk + Motherhood: March 2023

 Reflective of how busy February was, I never did finish this half-written missive in time for a February newsletter! I think I was so excited for creativity and ambition to return postpartum that I finally got in over my head. All the balls were kind of in the air, and then my youngest dropped to one nap and basically all the balls dropped along with that loss of time. Such are the cons of choosing to work from home, so I've had to remind myself that I'm my own boss and I can make my job work for me, not vice versa. So I logged off of Instagram for Lent and I'm already loving the extra time spend on catching up on all the things: my to-do list (kind of), finishing my allergy cookbook (coming in April), but also catching up on my Dwell Bible reading plan, podcast interviews for season 2, and (hopefully) journaling and processing how quickly my third baby is growing! 

I had to laugh as I deleted January's content and started on this month. That New Year's Resolution to sit down while eating? Imagine me laugh-crying because that same week, my 12 month old learned how to scale all of the household surfaces and spent a solid month pushing things over to the table, climbing up, and gleefully dispersing all objects on said table to all four corners of the room. So meal time has been a blance of feeding him in his highchair until he's whiny and restless and letting him run around while we all *try* to eat and have a baby billy goat climbing into everyone's lap and using that as leverage to get onto the table. I know I'll eat in peace again, and a very tiny part of me will miss this, but it's kind of exhausting in the meantime.

What I'm learning

I took what was supposed to be a long-awaited restful trip for 36 hours at the start of the month. I went to KC, saw some old friends (that part was amazing), went to see Abby Halberstadt speak at a one-day homeschool conference (meh), and raced home. Between the pumping and the having to be so selective about avoiding food allergens and just... not fitting in the way I did when I lived there, it was a wonderful and thought-provoking break from the everyday, but it wasn't exactly restful. 

You could probably say I hit some good burnout late January/early February. It's been a long year of physical and emotional recovery, so adding the cold dark weather, and self-imposed impossible to-do lists was a recipe for never feeling like anything got done, let alone done well.

I'm still paying attention to this process and learning from my mistakes, for sure. I hope I alwyas will be!

What I'm reading

The  was actually just as long as the Outlander books are and it took me several weeks to chug through it, but it was so enjoyable, as is everything Diana Gabaldon has written!

As for non-fiction, I thought I'd read everything Ruth Reichel wrote, so I was pleasantly surprised to find  at my library book sale. I guess I'm getting old, because reading about life in the early 90s without the internet and cell phones just felt so simple and refreshing.

What I'm listening to

I had a long queue of audiobooks and podcasts to catch up on while I drove to and from KC, and instead I ended up listening to playlists from the last 4 years almost the entire time. It was a really sweet way to reflect on the journey we've been on the past 4 years in our marriage. That's a story for another day, though. I've also been loving the new-to-me Sandra McCracken song lately. I actually don't feel like I'm in the valley for the first time in a long long time and for some reason it makes the song even sweeter, looking back at how far I've come. 

I'm also working my way through Read-Aloud Revival podcast episode 216: . The quote, "there is time enough for what God has called us to do" has really been resonating with me.

On the podcast

I recently started a podcast called  and it's been so fun. You can always find more info on Instagram (@happy.mama.healthy.baby), where I've made it really easy to see episode recaps on my feed. Season 1 has been focused on postpartum identity, recovery, and nutrition. Here's a review of what you'll find on Apple or Spotify from January and February:

8. : My doula and chef friend Tori Weber and I talk about how to actually impelment postpartum dietary recommendations when your hands are full.

9. : Physical Therapist Dr. Cait and I talk about how we grow with each kid, how we need to apply our maternal mama bear instincts to our own postpartum care as well, and physical and emotional patterns that we can get into that don't serve us.

10.  Honestly, after most of my interviews, I think, "I love doing this and that was the best conversation ever." But this one was with one of my absolute favorite women, PT Stephanie Novacek. I worked alongside her for several years and I still learned so many things about infant movement patterns and co-regulation in this conversation.

11. : I was so nervous about this conversation, but Sally was SO easy to talk to and we had a blast talking about raw milk, human milk, ancestral diets, and the importance of Dr. Weston A. Price's research.

12. : In this interview, Taylor Kulik and I talk about all things sleep. Namely, what's normal in regards to infant sleep and how to cope with and investigate sleep patterns that are abnormal. You guys, the great irony is that the night I posted this episode was the FIRST TIME EVER my 14.5 month old slept through the night. You hear in the episode that he spent months 4-9 waking every one to two hours and crying inconsolably at night, so I thought this day might never come.

I have one more episode to post for season 1, and then Season 2 will start at the end of April. I have already done 5 interviews for seaon 2, with guests like Dr. Trill from Free to Feed, Adina Rubin with Strength Training for Happy Hormones, biological dentist Dr. Molly Hayes, and more!

If you're loving the podcast, PLEASE LEAVE A REVIEW ON APPLE. It's really easy to type a few sentences in, and it helps more people find the fantastic information my guests are sharing with you all. There will be a giveaway before season 2 starts, and all Apple reviews will be entered in the giveaway!

What I'm cooking

I'm still doubling meals to eat two nights in a row, and it really helps my decision fatigue with meal planning as well as the budget. We've been eating lots of recipes from the upcoming Nourished with Nuance e-cookbook as my wonderful recipe testers and I work out the last few kinks. Cookbook comes out in APRIL! I promise not to spam you, but you'll get 1-2 extra emails that month with early access and also a special email discount code.

What I'm feeding my kids

I have been making one chocolate cake per week because I'm determined to find one good cake recipe free from all the allergens for the cookbook. I've been making gluten and egg free cake fails for almost 6 years now, and I'm determined to get this one right. So.... we've been eating a lot of gummy or crumbly choclate cake, but the kids aren't complaining. The major WIN, though, is the muddy buddy bars from the cookbook. They're easy, fun, and delicious.

Parting thoughts

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Monday, January 9, 2023

Milk + Motherhood: January 2023

 Happy New Year! The holiday season is behind us, for better or for worse, and now we enter the part of the year where, at least in the Midwest, it feels like it's awlays winter and never Christmas (to quote CS Lewis). My youngest and likely last baby also turned once since my last monthly update, so I feel like I've climbed a mountain and I've turned around (to quote Fleetwood Mac... and now I'm realizing that song explains my life so accurately right now). 

What I'm learning

I'm feeling such a big shift right now since the new year also directly corresponds with leaving the baby stage of life, and I'm evaluating what I what this new season to look like, insofar as I can control that. 

This year, I really want to focus on deeper work. Really focusing on local resources to improve postpartum care in my little town. Diving in the podcast and providing a postpartum and breastfeeding resource unlike anything else that's out there. Getting the word out about our Nourished Beginnings course so moms-to-be have concise, practical prenatal breastfeeding education at their fingertips. 

But also, sitting down to eat my meals, being better at distunguishing between work time and mom time, adding in more subjects to our homeschool routine. Deepening friendships. It sounds like a lot of things, but it really all has the same desire at the root of it: authenticity and presence. The opposite of multitasking.

What I'm reading

In fiction (or I guess this is non-fiction, although not in the way I usually think about it) I started reading the . For so long, Harry Potter was a winter comfort read for me. The last few years, it's been Outlander. Give me all the UK knits and gray skies and good writing, I guess.

In non-fiction, alas, I did not finish any books and instead started two new ones: Mother Culture by Karen Andreola and Parents and Children by Charlotte Mason. *SIGH* Perhaps a 2023 goal should be to finish the non-fiction books I start, but I guess that's not enough of a priority for me right now.

I also loved reading this article: 

What I'm listening to

This past month, while I was driving or doing mindless tasks like cooking and cleaning, I mostly listened to the Audible version of  by Matthew Perry. (Yeah, the guy from Friends). I oddly love addiction memoir, and I love Friends, but I'm on the fence about this book. If you read it, REPLY to this email! I need to debrief with someone who gets it.

On the podcast

I recently started a podcast called  and it's been so fun. You can always find more info on Instagram (@happy.mama.healthy.baby), where I've made it really easy to see episode recaps on my feed. Season 1 has been focused on postpartum identity, recovery, and nutrition. Here's a review of what you'll find on Apple or Spotify from November and December:

01.  - A short into to the podcast plus a reading of one the best essays I read as a new mom.

02.  - An interview with postpartum herbalist Amanda Radan. We talk about herbs and nutrition and adjusting to motherhood, but mostly she drops some beautiful wisdom about the transformation from maiden to mother and it was so encouraging to me.

03.  - Katelyn Fusco from Happy Homebirth Podcast (@happyhomebirthpodcast) and I chat about how physiologic birth sets us up for the best chance for the hormonal cascade that promotes breastmilk production. HOWEVER we spend most of the episode talking about how you can still facilitate oxytocin and bonding and breastfeeding if labor and delivery don't go the way you planned for any number of reasons, and how to recover physically and emotionally if that's the case.

04.  - Fellow IBCLC Cortney Steffensmeier (@growwiththe.flow) and I share a lot about what early breastfeeding looked like us, how that changed the entire trajectory of our lives, and how we don't want other mothers walking into it feeling as unequipped as we did. (PS: there's a hidden course discount in the Instagram post for this episode).

05.  - Perinatal counselor Stephanie Risinger (@hopefulandwhole) gives us a great overview of what is and isn't normal in terms of postpartum emotions. This episode is so valuable, and particularly worth sending to your support person and family members before baby arrives.

06.  - I have received so many questions about this subject, so I took them to the mineral queen herself, Amanda Montalvo (aka @hormonehealingrd). She answers so many questions about HTMAs, Lactation Lab testing, postpartum mineral intake, but *most importantly* we talk about checking in with your body and knowing when it is or isn't beneficial to test or make big changes.

07.  - Loren Sofia (@innate_fertility) and I talk about ancestral postpartum foods, how to prepare foods for the best nutritional availability, how to *practically* incorporate some of these ideas, and how to prioritize grocery shopping on a budget.

Follow me on Instagram or subscribe to the podcast on Apple of Spotify to make sure you don't miss the next few episodes from some fantastic guests like Cait Daubman (@womanlymade), Kori Meloy (@korimeloy), SALLY FALLON (!!!!) and more!

What I'm cooking

Whenever I'm in a rut, I go back to the  cookbook for foolproof meal plans. Lately, I've been doubling every recipe so we eat leftovers for 2-3 days. It's easier and, surprisingly, a little cheaper than making 5-7 unique meals each week.

What I'm feeding my kids

This feels like a personal win after they struggled with food sensitivities for so long, but my oldest two kids drank and tolerated Kalona brand eggnog all of December, and now they're drinking Kalona chocolate milk. I'm so excited for them to have another source of protein and minerals throughout the day. Meanwhile, the baby passed baked milk and butter on the dairy ladder, so it's just been a really encouraging month all-around in terms of food sensitivities.

Parting thoughts

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Friday, December 9, 2022

A Liturgy for a Mother on the Eve of Baby's First Birthday

How marvelous you are, Oh Lord,

who knit this soul into being,

woven from two cells into a body ready to be born.


As I went to bed this time last year,

I had carried the weight of this life for months,

but not yet looked into these eyes,

heard this cry, filled this stomach.


My own womb was full, 

but I didn't know my heart was empty

in a corner only this baby could fill.


Tonight, I go to bed with an empty womb,

but a full heart.

Not wondering if this is the night,

or tomorrow is the day,

or how this baby will unfold from inside my body

into my arms.


Tonight, I go to bed knowing

that this marks the last few hours of unknowing.

Tomorrow I will remember the moment I met 

this image bearer face to face,

the child you always intended to share with us,

who reflects a facet of your glory in a way 

no one else ever will.


Thank you for the gift of life and the gift of this child.

Help us to carry it well, to point this soul back to you,

the Giver of good gifts.


Grant them

wisdom,

peace,

joy,

strength

that they might be an instrument of your glory.


Thank you for carrying us through that dark night 

to the break of morning.

A night in which my body was broken,

bled,

poured out for new life,

in a pale reflection of what you've done for us on the cross.


Let me draw courage from your sacrifice

when the sacrifices of motherhood feel like they might weigh me down

instead of strengthening me and drawing me closer to you.


Amen and Hallelujah.

Monday, December 5, 2022

Milk + Motherhood: December 2022

Happy December! The holidays, short days, cold weather, and germs are upon us! My baby turns 1 next weekend so I've been all over the place emotionally the past few weeks. I was walking this afternoon and listening to a podcast I for sure wanted to share in the next newsletter, only to realize it's already a new month! Oh boy. Maybe for Christmas we will get some sleep!

What I'm learning

I must be in some consolidation and integration phase I don't know the name of, because I've been FEELING lots and learning lots, but I don't feel like I can put it into words yet.

What I'm reading

In fiction, I've been reading the Mure series by Jenny Colgan. It's a great time of year for a series of novels that take place on a cold, windy island north of Scotland! The stories manage to be warm, cozy, and enjoyable though.

In non-fiction, alas, I did not finish any books. But I have read some great essays lately that are worth sharing:

Maybe it Doesn't Have to End

Will I Just Know?

Don't Take the Intimacy Out of Breastfeeding <-- If you only read one, make it this one

What I'm listening to

DID YOU KNOW I HAVE A PODCAST?! It actually launched mid-Novemeber, and I have 4 episodes up, one in the pipeline, and a bunch more interveiws coming up. I'd love for you to listen and leave a review if you learned something! The Milk + Motherhood Podcast is on Apple and Spotify now. So I've been listening to my interviews over and over as I edit and it's been so fun.

I'm also listening to some other really great episodes on other podcasts:

Birth as a Hero's Journey on Pregnancy, Birth, and Beyond (you're gonna hear me talk about this one more over the next few months after I re-listen a few times).

Every Mom a Theologian on Don't Mom Alone. I particularly loved this episode because I found out that Phylicia is also an OG God-Centered Mom podcast listener from 8 years ago!

Polyvagal Parenting with Mandy Flanders on the Body Wisdom podcast

Intentional Parenting, Nervous System Regulation, and Kids' Emotional Health with Katie Crosby on the Freely Rooted podcast

What I'm cooking

I've been in a bit of a rut as the seasons change. I'm basically making old standbys 3 times a week and doubling the recipe so we have leftovers the next night. I don't know why I didn't actually do this sooner!

What I'm feeding my kids

'Tis the season for collagen hot chocolate. The recipe is in our course cookbook and it's so simple and so good!


Wednesday, November 9, 2022

Milk and Motherhood: November 2022

Happy November, everyone! I am not sure what happened to September and October, but here we are with crisp mornings, earlier sunsets, and the end of the gardening season, at least here in Nebraska. My last baby's first birthday is rapidly approaching, and I'm kind of in shock that time is passing so quickly!

What I'm learning

This month has been learning a lot of acceptance for what is. What if God's desire in this season is to change my heart and not my baby's sleep (or lack thereof)? I've been called back into prayer, which I've resisted for a long time. But instead of trying to "figure out" my life in prayer or get a specific answer to a specific problem, I'm trying to just ask God in his mercy to show me his nearness and his goodness in whatever circumstance I need help with. As Elisabeth Elliot says, "The secret is Christ in me, not me in a different set of circumstances."

What I'm reading

I'm still plowing through fiction at bedtime and when I'm frustratingly awake between nighttime feeds, but my nonfiction pile is full of a lot of books I need to finish, so there's that. My goal for the next newsletter is to report that I actually finished one of my nonfiction books!

What I'm listening to

Even my podcast listening has taken a hit this month. Seriously, where has time gone? I think the only episode I started and finished was the  episode on the Are You Menstrual? podcast because I'm still struggling with baby food allergy issues. 

BUT WAIT! Looking that episode up reminded me I also listened to this phenomenal interview with Adina Rubin about strength training. I've been so tired of being tired and achy, and so conflicted as to whether or not to workout in this state. This episode on  convinced me it's worth starting to build up my strength again becuase being weak is just as stressful as being tired is, especially when you struggle with hypermobility like I do!

What I'm cooking

Just last night my husband helped me made this  dinner (he helps with dinner on the weekend and I love it). This wasn't nearly as quick and simple as I like sheet pan meals to be, but it was DELICIOUS and we will definitely eat it agian.

What I'm feeding my kids

Last year, we discovered  recipe that you cook and then freeze in batches so you can eat applie cobbler or pie all winter long! We just made our third batch this fall. I use arrowroot instead of cornstarch.

Parting thoughts

I've started including affiliate links at the bottom of my montly email. I have such mixed thoughts about appearaing sales-y, but the fact is that these are companies I have purchased from (and still do, with my own money) for years so *I* approached *them* for affiliate links so you can try my favorite things at a discount, too.

That being said, I wanted you to know that  is starting their holiday sale at 7pm Monday night. It runs through November 3 and it includes 25% off of any of their Perfect brand products! We use their collagen, gelatin, immunity mushroom blend, Vitamin C powder, and desiccated beef liver regularly and I love their transparency and quality. Every product has their quality testing available per batch right on the page so you know there's no contamination, heavy metals, glyphosate, etc. If you use code HAPPYMAMA10, you get an *additional* 10% off Perfect brand products AND anything else in your cart (they also sell Smidge magnesium, Rosita cod liver oil, and more).

Monday, October 31, 2022

Milk and Motherhood: October 2022

 

What I'm learning

To be honest, now that our  is finished and launched, my learning brain is on a bit of a hiatus. What I'm needing to re-learn is patience and presence as launch winds down and I don't need to be spending as much time on social media promoting it. (That being said, the launce sale ends tonight at midnight if you meant to and haven't done so yet).

What I'm reading

In fiction, sorry not sorry I'm still working my way through all the Jenny Colgan books I can get my hands on via the library. What can I say? When I find something I like, I'm all in! I mostly read before bed and these are perfect because they are long, have a great sense of place, and they aren't scary or suspenseful. Many of them also involve people eating yummy food, which is a plus! The one I most recently finished was .

In non-fiction, I just started ! I literally JUST started it, though, so I don't have much to say except that, well, the author has A LOT of kids.

What I'm listening to

Organic Olivia started a podcast in 2020 and she just came out with an episode called,  and it was fun to listen to her venture into a new area of learning. Of course, there were some breastfeeding inaccuracies in the episode since the guest is a mom and acupuncturist, but not a lactation consultant, so be warned your nipples do NOT just have to "burn" during feedings for a month until your baby "just figures it out." I reached out and told her I'd love to do an episode called, "So You Had the Baby... Now What?" ;-)

Also, the Freely Rooted podcast had a PHENOMENAL  this past week with two fantastic guests. I learned so much and it made me more passionate than ever about presenting an appropriate and Godly model of femininity for my daughter to grow up with so she's not looking to the world to tell her what it means to be a woman.

What I'm cooking

The baby's allergies mean I can't eat chicken, eggs, and dairy among other things and I'm getting pretty tired of turkey, beef, and pork. I ordered some other things from US Wellness Meats last week to add some variety. I'm most excited for the duck drumsticks... I miss roasted bone-in chicken so much! I also got some lamb sausage, liverwurst, and beef bone marrow.

What I'm feeding my kids

Now that my oldest two are past toddler and preschool ages, it's fun to see persistence pay off when it comes to putting food in front of them and letting them try it. They will try most things, and I'm super grateful. Today I made a braunschweiger (a type of liverwurst) dip and added it to a little snack plate with homemade crackers, raw A2 cheese, apple, and this dip. My daugher tried two crackers-full and my son kept going. It was an effort not to make a bit deal about how excited I was, lest I freak them out and make them wonder why it's such a big deal. Even the 10 month old ate a few bites of braunschweiger. The recipe for the dip is !

If you want to be a little lower-key about sneaking in organ meats, Force of Nature ancestral blends are the easiest way to do this. We use them at least once a week. Especially when it's in something like tacos or spaghetti sauce, I swear you can't taste anything different. You can use  for $15 off your first order if you want to try it!

POSTSCRIPT: 

Our  breastfeeding and postpartum course launched last week and it's been SO FUN seeing what the launch team things of it and seeing you all purchase it. I'm SO excited to start getting feedback from mamas-to-be who are taking the course, once they have their babies. If this is you, reply to this email and let me know what you think of the course material so far!

Monday, October 24, 2022

Breastfeeding and the Eucharist

I didn't write this. A mama named Lillian Keil wrote it on October 7, 2014 on a blog called Hilltop Diaries shortly after Noah was born and I immediately loved it. The internet is fickle, so I'm copying it here in case the link I have stops working one day. 


I always thought communion was a little weird.

I became a Christian when I was 20. Though my love for Jesus came easily, my acceptance of church traditions did not. Communion struck me as a pointless relic of orthodoxy. The vague cannibalism implied by “this-is-my-body” and “this-is-my-blood" made me wonder if the whole thing wasn’t just a misquote of Jesus. Didn’t the church have more important works of justice to do than sit around feeding each other stale wafers? Sure, the bread of life and cup of salvation sounded beautiful, but drinking grape juice from a plastic thimble was never the transcendent experience I hoped it would be.

It wasn’t until I became a nursing a mother that I began to understand the Eucharist. 

My experience of breastfeeding has been very straightforward; my kids were both good latchers and grew steadily. Once I got over the initial shock of milk coming out of my boobs, I found it all quite simple and peaceful. By some mysterious process, my body produced the perfect nourishment for my babies. There was nothing gross about this transmission of fluids; I quickly ditched the nursing cover and breastfeed on demand. For food! For healing! For sleep! For comfort!

When Simon was a few months old, an acquaintance asked if I was breastfeeding. When I responded in the affirmative she said, "I knew it! I could tell by the way he looks so adoringly at you. He’s like ‘You’re all I need, Mom.’" 

Perhaps this is what Jesus had in mind for the Eucharist. Through the breaking of the bread, God invites us into the nursing relationship: the meeting of all our needs.

I think about the cracked nipples and the itchy thrush, the aches and fevers of mastitis, the midnight trek across the house to feed a crying baby, fatigued to the point of nausea: "This is my body, broken for you.”

I think about the times I missed out because of the chore it was keeping Simon fed, the chained-up feeling of pumping at work, the moments when I wish desperately for a break: “Poured out for you and for many…”

I think about God, who has given me these children and the means to sustain them, who is present in the Eucharist and in my nursing chair, who by these rituals invites me to participate in His life-giving power: “Do this, in remembrance of Me.”

Amen.